Able-bodied with disabilities

In Malaysia, sexuality issue is not often discussed among women with disabilities. This issue is always neglected because of fear and shyness. Actually we have to face and discuss this issue among good friends, partners and also public more often. Thus, women with disabilities may not have enough knowledge and are embarrassed by this issue.

Because of embarrassing and fear, a woman with disabilities may not ask, share or discuss this with anyone, even good friend. This attitude may lead misunderstanding to public. A woman with disabilities feels fear or embarrassing because most of able-bodied in Malaysia always view us, people with disabilities don’t have sexual desire, that’s a fact.

There is no deny, some women with disabilities have difficulties during intercourse. Experts say, women with disabilities may have sexual problems such as weakness, vaginal dryness, lack of balance, or hip or knee pain. But does it mean that we can’t enjoy or don’t have our sexual life?

In this article, I would not highlight about how do women with disabilities over come their sexual life.“

She also wants to get married?!”, “Let’s try whether you can have sex.”, “Can she have sex?”, “She can’t have a baby since she can’t even walk probably!” or “She is here, please don’t mention about this sensitive topic”. These are what I have been heard for years. Can I say they are lacking of knowledge or they are immoral? Do they insult women with disabilities?

Everytime I hear above statements, I feel very unhappy and sorry. I am sad because of why they view us as children and don’t know anything. And I feel sorry for those who don’t respect people with disabilities. I hope public would respect us even don’t understand us. Don’t be an able-bodied with disabled mind.